POTTY TRAINING PROBLEM

That problem tends to occur in younger children (closer to 2 years of age), hence it may be more of a maturational issue.

Things to keep in mind:

• Your child may be feeling little to no pressure at school/daycare to use the potty as it may be merely “part of the routine” (all the children go to the bathroom at the same time so your child is not singled out).
• Copying what other kids do (or better yet, the older kids) is terrific incentive for a child, as opposed to parental pressure.
• As frustrating as it may be, kids will sometimes do things for teachers they won’t do for parents (i.e. they know which buttons they can push in whom!).

        Ruby, Here are some things to try:

• Depending on your child’s age, level of language ability, and developmental level (i.e. a child closer to 3 years of age or older), it may be worthwhile trying to discuss this with your child. Keep it neutral and without pressure (“That’s so wonderful you are using the potty at school, your potty is here waiting when you are ready to use it at home”).
• Discussions with daycare providers/teachers may also shed light on the problem (What is their routine? what do they say or do with the children?).
• But most importantly, in this situation, especially if your child is closer to the age of two years, mere patience and backing off will frequently do the trick. Your child has taken a big step in using the potty at daycare. For whatever reason, s/he may not be ready to use the potty at home. You know s/he is capable, it’s just a mindset to get over. If there is no pressure on your part, your child will come around eventually.

           Good luck