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Aggressive Behavior in 5 yr old adopted daughter

Tue, 26 Feb 2008 10:12:45 GMT

My daughter is now five. I adopted her almost 2 yrs ago. Now she is diagnosed ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, OCD,ODD and RAD. She has become so aggressive that I had to remove her from her EC classroom at school, they could not handle her. I left my job last Sept and have been staying home with her. Does anyone know how I am suppose to survive now as a single parent? Any suggestions on how to handle meltdowns in public? Does anyone have a behavior chart at home, tell me how you help your child learn to control some of the behaviors. My child constantly tells me to shush, or wants to be left alone in her room with the tv for an hour or so, is this ok? Thank you for helping!

Lori

Problem with my 10yr old

Sun, 10 Feb 2008 13:31:10 GMT

By vollyball28 on Feb 10 1:31 pm

I searched your posts but could not find any information on misbehavior. My daughter who up until now has always been a 'good kid' has recently been acting up. She will out right defy any request that I ask and goes out of her way to not do what I ask. Punishing her has not seemed to help as she ends up defying my punishment as well. I would like an opinion on what could be done as I feel like this behavior is getting out of control and I want to stop it now. She has not been tested for any issues etc, however she is very introverted especially in the school setting.

Hard to get used to new nanny

Fri, 08 Feb 2008 15:33:01 GMT

By connie on Feb 8 3:33 pm

My 2,5 y.o son is very sceptic about his new nanny. She has been with us for two weeks and Max still does not seem to be happy with her.Is that a sign that she is not right person or it is just normal and he needs more time to adjust to new situation? She seems nice and trustful but perhaps i should trust my son's jugment??/ has anyone had similar problem?

hard to say No

Wed, 06 Feb 2008 15:42:11 GMT

By carla on Feb 6 3:42 pm

My daughter like every kid likes toys.Always when we go shopping she wants something new.When we reject buying new stuff she gets upset. She often starts screaming and makes scenes at the store. It is so ambarrasing for us so usually we give up and she can leave the store with all she wants . How to teach her that she can not have everything?Does someone have any idea how to get rid of that kind of behavior?

Potty Training Charts

Mon, 04 Feb 2008 15:12:46 GMT

By oslo2547 on Feb 4 3:12 pm

Do you know where I could get a potty training chart? I keep reading that I should incorporate a chart in my son's potty training. I have no idea what they look like or what they are supposed to do. I have a normal young boy with an over active bladder [:D]

ADHD as a problem behavior

Sun, 03 Feb 2008 23:39:20 GMT

By seantilbrook on Feb 3 11:39 pm

Is ADHD considered a problem behavior and if so what is the actual diagnosis and then what suggestions does anyone have for working on changing those behaviors?

Constantly after his younger brother

Sat, 02 Feb 2008 15:57:08 GMT

By wigglesfanatic on Feb 2 3:57 pm

The fightening in my house has got stop! I have two boys - both who seem to want to kill each other. We have tried everything from spanking, to taking away toys. I dont feel comfortable spanking nor does my husband. We have nothing left to take away and I feel like my house is turning into one of the homes shown on supernanny. The younger one is not as bad as the older one. Everything we tell him to do - he does the opposite especially when it comes to his brother. I feel like my parenting is failing. I want to know how to stop their sibling battles.

ABA

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 16:23:25 GMT

By wanda on Feb 1 4:23 pm

Can someone provide me more information about ABA? Has that method only been used with kids with autism ?

Sensitive to Noise

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 13:09:39 GMT

By terry on Feb 1 1:09 pm

My daughter is 1 year old and she is very sensitive. I cannot use anything what make a loude noise while she is present.we attend classes for babies and toddlers andI had to ask teacher to stop pretending a wild animal because she got very scered and she .was crying. What to do?We cannnot avoid people and normal live.

nightmares

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 12:58:37 GMT

By bela on Feb 1 12:58 pm

I decided to write about that because I am concerned. I am a mother of sweet girl who seems happy.Nighttime does not seem prove that. She mostly 4 times per week is awake crying.She has bad dreams about monsters and animals. What does make her to have that kind of dreams?? Is everything ok? Do I have to talk about that with specialist?

naughty son

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 12:40:01 GMT

By wendy on Feb 1 12:40 pm

We moved to a different city one month ago.Since than, Max ,my 3,5 y.o. son has become very naughty. He misbehaves all the time at school- he is very noisy and disturbs his teacher during class.At home is not even better ...seems like he needs attention most of the time. I am loosing my patience sometimes. I do not know that to do...maybe all those changes recently make him a different kid???

ritalin

Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:42:27 GMT

By magna18 on Feb 1 10:42 am

does anyone know anything about ritalin and slowed growth rates?

banging windows

Sun, 09 Dec 2007 01:16:18 GMT

By positive on Dec 9, 07 1:16 am

I have a friend who has a 10-year old daughter who is diagnosed with mental retardation and autism. The doctor's have said that she is more MR than autistic. This child has had this behavior for the past 5 years, although it could be worse, it is frustrating to her parents. She will hit the glass window with her hand, and if she doesn't use her hand, she will then use her foot. One week the mother took a tally count and her daughter hit the window 86 times in a week's time. This appears to be a game to her daughter. She will engage in this behavior the most when she isn't kept busy, but may also occasionally do it when she is engaged with another person. (By the way, it is very difficult to find things that will hold her attention for long). Luckily the windows are tinted at her home, so her safety is not at risk. However, she just came back from a cruise and my friend told me that she banged and kicked the metal walls in the cabin continuously. If she doesn't have access to a window, she will hit other items, such as doors or in this case, the metal walls, t.v, etc. If anyone has any ideas out there on how we can reduce this behavior, please share your thoughts. It appears that this behavior is either sensory based or attention maintained, or both. Please advise. Thank you!